The Five-Minute Rule

A Practical Solution for Building Successful Relationships 5-Minutes at a Time

Format: 45-minute keynote or workshop session
Sixteen years ago, I was flying home form a speaking engagement reading the results to a survey about how much time the average father spends each week with his children. There were two criteria: It had to be one-on-one conversations and those conversations had to be done in a normal tone of voice.  The national average: Seven minutes.  That’s not seven minutes per day; seven minutes per week!  This same survey tracked the amount of time a husband spends talking to his wife – again, one-on-one and in a normal tone of voice.  Not much better—twenty-seven minutes for the week.
Shocked, I tracked myself – sadly, I was very close to the national average.  That’s when I decided to do something about being the kind of husband and father my family deserved.  I created the Five-Minute Rule.  That was 16 years ago and it’s made all the difference my relationships. It was so successful at home; I applied it at work and achieved the same astounding results.
What is it?
Take five minutes each day to connect with the people that are important in your life.  At home, at work, over the phone, via e-mail and tell that person how much you appreciate them and a reason why they matter.  Simple, yet profound.
Who should attend: Appropriate for all levels within the organization
What you will learn:
  • Tangible ways to better connect with others
  • Start the habit of looking for what’s ‘good and right’ about a person or situation
  • Build an environment of emotional trust and integrity
  • How to help others become more successful and reach their full potential
  • Develop an attitude of gratitude in yourself and in others
How you will benefit:
  • Improve your attitude and outlook
  • Develop leadership and mentoring qualities
  • Become a the kind of person that brings out the best in others
Five-Minutes can make all the difference in the world. This is what one attendee experienced:  
‘I lost two dear friends in the Pentagon on 9/11.  One of them was the best man at my wedding over 9 years ago.  He had e-mailed me two weeks prior.  Thankfully, I used the Five-Minute Rule you taught and e-mailed him back the same day.  This was a source of comfort for me when I learned his life had been cut short by hate and fanaticism. ‘

E. Alford, Cardinal Trucking

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